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[boxofdelights]

I have been listening to a lot of emotionally manipulative language lately, ranging from "you're going to hate me saying this, but," through "if *my* beautiful teenage daughter were suddenly having convulsions, I would want to *do something* about it," all the way up to "so, just, no driving for three months, you're okay with that? And after three months, if she has a seizure behind the wheel, and kills herself and maybe someone else, you're okay with that?"

I realize that decades away from that kind of language doesn't give me any protection from hearing it again. But hearing it again gives me all kinds of appreciation for the decades away from it.

I realize that when my husband asks, "Why did you tell them?" he doesn't mean, "You shouldn't have told them." He doesn't mean, "You should have known better than to tell them." He doesn't mean what it would have meant in my family of origin, "Since I can see a way you could have avoided this, any suffering you experience is entirely your own fault." He just means, "Why?"


Said beautiful teenage daughter is WWOOFing in Belize.

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[redbird]

Oh, dear. And "So, if she shouldn't be driving, you're volunteering to disrupt your own life to drive her everywhere she wants to go whenever is convenient for her for the rest of her life?" isn't likely to shut them up, even though they are probably assuming either that you should do that, or that she doesn't have the right to go where she wants.

I don't mean to minimize the risks here: but I am not a doctor, let alone her doctor, and I don't know what they are. I do know that "no driving for n months, and then it's okay if she hasn't had a seizure in that time" is fairly standard—and if she actually accepts her doctor's stricture on that, she's more civic-minded than a lot of people.