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[personal profile] boxofdelights
When you are waiting for your mammogram results, if you find yourself thinking, "If I do have cancer, I won't have to do X any more," that is a sign that you should not do X any more.

My mammogram results are normal but my sister has breast cancer, and the BRCA gene.

Date: 2019-02-02 09:23 pm (UTC)
notasupervillain: Cat at computer (Default)
From: [personal profile] notasupervillain
I tell myself similar things when I realize something is making me depressed. It's good wisdom.

I'm sorry for your sister. I hope things go as well as they possibly can for her.

Date: 2019-02-02 09:57 pm (UTC)
sonia: Quilted wall-hanging (Default)
From: [personal profile] sonia
Best wishes to your sister!

Also best wishes with ceasing to do X. I'm sitting with an X that isn't working for me right now, but it's not clear that not-X will work for me any better.

Date: 2019-02-02 10:50 pm (UTC)
julian: Picture of the sign for Julian Street. (Default)
From: [personal profile] julian
Oh, dear. Best wishes to your sister.

If I may ask, what's your particular X Thing?

Date: 2019-02-04 07:42 am (UTC)
julian: Picture of the sign for Julian Street. (Default)
From: [personal profile] julian
Totally reasonable; I tried to ask in a way that didn't assume i had some kind of *right* to an answer, or anything. Ifwhen you want to talk about it, i'm here to listen. (Or, well, read, but you know.)

Date: 2019-02-02 11:36 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] siderea
Indeed. I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I wish the best for her and you.

Good news!

Date: 2019-02-02 11:48 pm (UTC)
jesse_the_k: Be kinder than need be: everyone is fighting some kind of battle (Be kinder)
From: [personal profile] jesse_the_k
Excellent advice.

Kind thoughts for your sister.

Date: 2019-02-03 01:05 am (UTC)
redbird: closeup of me drinking tea, in a friend's kitchen (Default)
From: [personal profile] redbird
Indeed. (I assume here that X isn't something like "brush my teeth" or "do laundry.")

Date: 2019-02-03 03:35 am (UTC)
snippy: Lego me holding book (Default)
From: [personal profile] snippy
I hope your sister is healed.

I had that exact thought last spring. The lump they removed was not cancerous, but the list of things I don't have to do is revealing.

Date: 2019-02-03 03:57 am (UTC)
umadoshi: (kittens - Claudia - pensive)
From: [personal profile] umadoshi
Good wishes to your sister. That's so hard. :(

Date: 2019-02-03 04:14 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sovay
if you find yourself thinking, "If I do have cancer, I won't have to do X any more," that is a sign that you should not do X any more.

Good call.

I hope things go as easily with your sister as possible.

Date: 2019-02-03 05:42 am (UTC)
loligo: Scully with blue glasses (Default)
From: [personal profile] loligo
Sending you best wishes for your sister's health.

Date: 2019-02-03 05:59 am (UTC)
under_the_silk_tree: Ray vecchio with the words working class hero (Ray Vecchio)
From: [personal profile] under_the_silk_tree
Yeah it is best to give up on things that cause us to have such thoughts.

I'm so sorry about your sister.

Date: 2019-02-03 06:47 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] silveradept
Good call on that rule.

Here's hoping for a complete eradication, if it is possible, for your sister.

Date: 2019-02-03 10:35 am (UTC)
rmc28: Rachel smiling against background of trees, with newly-cut short hair (Default)
From: [personal profile] rmc28
I'm glad you're ok & best wishes to your sister.

Date: 2019-02-03 03:03 pm (UTC)
j00j: rainbow over east berlin plattenbau apartments (Default)
From: [personal profile] j00j
Fuck cancer, forever and ever, amen.

May your sister have the best treatment and outcome possible. And may you find support as you support her. Does she have access to good care and help to navigate the system?

And yes, that's definitely a sign you shouldn't do X anymore. I hope X is something you can let go of, and replace with more joyful things.

Date: 2019-02-03 03:25 pm (UTC)
susanreads: a basket of flowers hanging on a wall (flowers)
From: [personal profile] susanreads
I hope your sister gets through it OK.

That's a good rule.

Date: 2019-02-03 07:27 pm (UTC)
mrissa: (Default)
From: [personal profile] mrissa
I made a similar discovery when I was saying, "when Grandma dies, I won't have to x any more," and...I do not want any reason to look forward to my grandma dying, so I took the responsibility to just stop X.

Also my grandma's eldest sister lived to be 104 11/12, and Grandma is only 86, so...I really shouldn't pin a lot on her passing just practically.

Date: 2019-02-04 04:58 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] baratron
Best wishes to you and your sister.

Date: 2019-02-04 06:24 am (UTC)
kalmn: (kill kill)
From: [personal profile] kalmn
Fuck a goddamn duck that sucks rocks through a bendy straw. *hug*

I hate talking on the phone. For you, I would talk on the phone about this. Given things, texting or gchat might work better, I am still up for both.

If you do not know if you have the BRCA gene, and you would like to find out, and you would not like your medical professionals to find out, 23andme will provide you with results for the most common BRCA mutations. They are the ones that affect people with Ashkenazi descent. (I am 3.74% Ashkenazi, apparently. Didn't know until 2015.) They are reasonably good with privacy, although my general opinion is that anyone will give up anything, given a warrant.

Date: 2019-02-04 08:43 am (UTC)
elf: Twitchy alligator from Die Anstalt (Twitchy)
From: [personal profile] elf
My list of X includes things like The Day Job, so "just stop X" is not a reasonable option. I'm in the process of trying to get therapy/treatment for the fact that there is an actual and growing list of X, enough that my normal risk avoidance is shifting to apathy and I would really like to find a way to stop it from shifting to risk-seeking on the premise that that will get rid of some of the X things.

Date: 2019-02-04 05:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] carbonel
My niece-in-law (or whatever you call a nephew's wife) has the BRCA gene, which she discovered when her sister developed breast cancer. They want to start a family, so she's gone through a couple of rounds of IVF to make sure she only has BRCA-free children, and has had two miscarriages so far.

Fuck cancer.

Date: 2019-02-06 06:21 pm (UTC)
bibliofile: Fan & papers in a stack (from my own photo) (Default)
From: [personal profile] bibliofile
Ah, a helpful thought! (Kinda like a good news/bad news joke, all in one. Very wry but still useful.)

Please keep us posted on your sister, if you're up to it. And take care.


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