Unexpected blow to the self-esteem day

[boxofdelights]

The man who led SF book group last night sent out an email recap to everyone today. He attributed what I said about the book to me, but what I said about The Cloud Road being reprinted to the other fat woman there. The other fat woman and the man have been attending this book group much longer than I have, but I've been there almost every month for two years, sheesh already.

It's funny; the last time I was confused with another person who looks nothing like me except for fat and glasses, I thought of it as an individual problem: doesn't she like me? Is she maybe a little bit face blind? But this time I'm just, pfft, men, how can they be expected to tell one woman they're not attracted to from another.

xkcd: How Sexism Works

Comments

[mishalak]

I am sorry that this happened to you. Would a phone call make you feel better?

I do not have face blindness, but I seem to have a problem with looking live people in the face (which I am trying to work on).

[boxofdelights]

That is very kind! I am fine.

I also have the trouble with finding eye contact overwhelming. Is there anything you do to work on it, other than just trying to make yourself do it?

[mishalak]

In social situations I try to imagine it is a movie. Or I take notes like for a class.

[bibliofile]

Hmmm.
/Marge Simpson

[boxofdelights]

Are you hmmming about my sexism? I do see how problematic it is, and I would remove it from my brain if I could.

[lotesse]

welp, their loss for missing out on the awesomeness that is you :)

[boxofdelights]

♥

[firecat]

I would be tempted to attribute things that he said to the other fat woman.