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Someone tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Susan." I said "yes" and turned around and found myself face to face with The Person at Wiscon I Don't Want To Interact With. I thought I had girded my loins for this. I was going to continue to refuse to interact with them (yes, even when you lean out of your chair at a 45-degree angle and wave your whole arm and spread hand in front of me, I cannot see you, is it not amazing) unless they forced me to, and then I would say clearly and firmly, "I still don't want to interact with you," and not care if I got judged to be a bitch.

I think if I had seen them coming, I would have been able to pull up my big-girl loin girds and do that. But they came from behind, and suddenly there we were, less than a foot apart and in conversation already.

Ten years of refusing to interact down the drain, because now they can say, "How was I supposed to know you didn't want to interact? We had a perfectly fine conversation at Wiscon 39!"


Date: 2015-05-25 08:26 pm (UTC)
jae: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jae
I'm very glad I don't go to Wiscon, because if I did, I'd totally be paranoid that you were talking about me. *g*


Date: 2015-05-26 02:42 am (UTC)
jae: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jae
Oh, no, I was just joking! (I mean, realistically people wouldn't tend to write posts like that in a place where the person in question is likely to read them.)

To the limited extent to which I actually meant that I would think that under those circumstances, I was poking fun at myself, not admonishing you. Sorry it came out wrong.


Date: 2015-05-25 08:49 pm (UTC)
sonia: Quilted wall-hanging (Default)
From: [personal profile] sonia

I'm curious about "How was I supposed to know..." There's no way they could know? Or (seems more likely to me) have they erected a wall against the signals you've been sending? Their failure to pay attention is not your failure to communicate.

The whole situation sounds so frustrating! Wishing/hoping for some elegant, kind solution to occur.

Date: 2015-05-25 09:12 pm (UTC)
seascribe: (Default)
From: [personal profile] seascribe
Ten years of purposefully not talking to me seems like a pretty clear signal. I'm sorry that happened, and I hope it doesn't become a painful issue for you in the future. *hugs*

Date: 2015-05-26 12:09 am (UTC)
umadoshi: (introvert)
From: [personal profile] umadoshi
*winces* I'm sorry to hear that. :/

Date: 2015-05-26 01:17 am (UTC)
jiawen: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jiawen
If you'd like someone to transmit a message to this person, such as "She does not ever want to interact with you", I volunteer.
Edited Date: 2015-05-26 01:17 am (UTC)

Date: 2015-05-26 03:07 am (UTC)
jiawen: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jiawen
Twas ever thus, right? Seems like WisCon is always "700 cool people I need to have conversations with, only time to talk to 20". Hopefully next year! :)

Date: 2015-05-26 11:13 pm (UTC)
jiawen: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jiawen
Also, if you'd like someone to back you up while you tell them yourself, I also volunteer for that. I generally volunteer to help in whatever way I can.

Date: 2015-05-26 03:04 am (UTC)
bibliofile: Fan & papers in a stack (from my own photo) (Default)
From: [personal profile] bibliofile
Or me. Especially if you think I might know them.

Date: 2015-05-26 03:11 am (UTC)
From: [personal profile] jinian
I am making inarticulate frustrated noises on your behalf.

And I hope I can reserve a meal with you at next Wiscon, which I am already planning for. I've missed seeing you.

Date: 2015-05-26 04:34 am (UTC)
siderea: (Default)
From: [personal profile] siderea
Wow, that sucks. I'm sorry it happened to you.

Ten years of refusing to interact down the drain, because now they can say, "How was I supposed to know you didn't want to interact? We had a perfectly fine conversation at Wiscon 39!"

Well, no, because what you wanted, past-tense, is not at issue. The point is, going forward, you would prefer they leave you alone. The answer to "How was I supposed to know?" is "You know now."

Date: 2015-06-02 06:23 am (UTC)
siderea: (Default)
From: [personal profile] siderea
No, not really. But I'm glad it was helpful! Were other people talking about it like you would have to break the news to him gently or something?

Date: 2015-05-26 03:55 pm (UTC)
firecat: red panda looking happy (Default)
From: [personal profile] firecat
It sucks that you were cornered. I concur with the folks saying that having been surprised into one conversation with them doesn't mean you have to interact with them in the future.

Date: 2015-05-26 04:23 pm (UTC)
jesse_the_k: Perfectly circlular white brain-like fungus growing on oak tree (Beating heart of love GIF)
From: [personal profile] jesse_the_k
Even being corner by someone you want to be with is sucky.

My sympathies and support.

Date: 2015-05-26 08:34 pm (UTC)
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)
From: [personal profile] silveradept
That seems like a planned ambush rather than a chance interaction. At which point, you could give them both barrels about not wanting to interact and how their decision to sneak up on you was worse.


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